Saturday, September 16, 2006
breakup
Haha.. so long nv blog le. srry ppl. no more toking, i will go straight in blogging.today i gona tok abt breakup. Lols.. interesting huh? though i m not an expert but i'll try
I heard alot of breakup stories from all my friends. From my experience (not the experience of mine! haha..) ,basically i analyse it into Top 5 different categories. (reasons for breakup)
1) SUDDEN DISAPPEARANCE
One of the most strange and weird reasons for breakup.
Reasons for disapperance for guys
- Found a new lover (one leg step onto two boats)
- no money to spend on gf
- Pre-occupied with work
- she's too ugly/fat/irritating
- made the wrong choice (er..not my type)
- found out that there is a ugly mole on her butt
- she smokes
- realised that she is so much older
- play play for fun.
gals wil start to believe they are gone for good roughly after abt 3 to 7 days. so if ur bf start neglecting you..jus forget it, he's not interested in you at all
2) OPPOSING PERSONALITIES
she is too hot for you? u are the yin and she is the yang?haha.. for the relationship to last, both wavelength must be the same... if not, you will realised the other partner would swallow you up oneday. Since men and women think differently, act differently and even argue differently, things can get lost in translation. When they do, she ends up crying and you end up confused. there are actually successful cases of BGR with ppl of opposing personalites/ character but don pin so much hope...i suggest might as well break up.haha! cos u gona have a hard time "letting" him/her, eventually u will go mad oneday...
E.gs - "Dear! u know you are very inconsiderate! i already try very hard to be understanding but u always don spare a thought for mi onnneee!! -gal
"not happy ar? break up lor" -guy
... ya...the gal should break up with him
3) I THINK YOU WILL GET A BETTER GUY/GAL NEXT TIME
oh pls! this is wad century liao!
"really, i don think i can give you happiness, wo pei bu shang ni, i cannot "watever" you forever. i think u can find a better guy/gal than mi lor! so bye bye!"
- sounds like an EXCUSE more than a reason right? totally agree.... u noe this like a very nice way of acting yourself to be a good guy/ character? and jus kiss ur ass and say goodbye..lols.. in wat way can a person rebutt to this kind of reason? He/she is jus a useless piece of shit who can nicely push the blames on his/her disability of providing happiness or wateva shit. its jus very irritating. wat a jerk right? - gals . wat a bitch right? - guys. aiya. might as well break cos no matter how hard you persuade or convince, he's jus wanna dump u. cruel..yes.. jus accept it! haha..
4) I DONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE
The most heart-breaking reason of all centuries ever.. of cos the person before saying "i dont love you anymore" will also say plenty crap first lah.. say wad like" i suddenly don have "feel" for you leh?" chinese saying "chang tong bu ru duan tong"...lols..means short term pain is better than long term pain. it somehow linked to the 3rd reason. why so heart-breaking? becos it can jus shut the other opponent's mouth instantly. what can u say to ur lover when she/he says don love you anymore? nothing right? stupid ppl will say "really meh? bluff mi one right?" so wad to do next? Break lah!
Forcing to be together is no happiness. so ya...accept the fate bah.. u may love him/her deeply but wats the point? doing wateva things really really wun do much effect, so jus give up man! haha..
5) PSLE / OLEVEL/ ALEVEL/ POLY/ ARMY/ UNIVERSITY/ ITE
hehe.. my study more impt, in other words "u are second priority to mi"..
many breakups are also due to exams and study... cos devotion in relationsips will really cause lack of time for other stuff such as studying. "maybe after olevel, i look for u?" haha! this is a quite dumb statement.. trust mi, there wun be... and btw when one really go and look for the person, the "feel" may be gone too. so chances of being together? less than 10%
ARMY is the worst thing ever for guys.. do u think the gal will wait for u for like 2 years? no way man! wait for the sky fall down..also wun happen. i don think ppl will that kind of patience. loyalty? no...omg.. in this century there is no such word in the love dictionary liao... my bro lost its 4 yr relationships gf becos of that. wanna be smart? find after ur army..haha! if ur gf can really wait... i think u can consider marrying her liao...cos this kind of gals have already extinct millions years ago. those are rare-species..lols.. so think thrice before u act.
so this is all the top 5 reasons, which category do u fall under? haha..i m so evil
Breakup survival skills
lols..i m not an expert here. but jus wanna suggest sth. take a look at the statement below
I'm cured, sterilized from your love and finally at peace. I no longer miss you and no longer love you. Yet I still wait for you my love, every minute that I live, every hour of the day, every day of the month and every month of the year."
that sounds contradicting but it can be achieve... btw to all ppl out there... this kind of case, chances of patching can be as low as like? 10 %..realli realli no hope.. trust mi
Why issit so difficult to get over a breakup? it may last for years..maybe.. for months.. and not days.. but why? (apply to those who love its partner deeply)
ppl are just not being able to let go of false hope. Most people are stuck in limbo with the idea that there might be a chance of getting back together with their gf/bf.
The result of such beliefs is a double-edged rejection sword. This person actually inflicts prolonged and repetitive pain. First comes the initial sting originating from the breakup itself. Then comes the gut-wrenching, heart-breaking hope that he/she will return, and eventually the realization that she does not regret leaving you -- and she is gone for good.
cruel huh? but this is really true..
All this pain could be kept short and sweet if a guy/gal would just learn to accept the decision made by his "new" ex and move on with his life. By waiting around and hoping, a man/women is trapping himself/herself in an endless circle of torture.
whether is my own experience or other experience.. tis is all i wanted to share with u guys. haha.. to those whose hearts are being broken, don be sad, tomorrow will be a better day for u.
Posted by wanderluster at 9/16/2006 12:04:00 AM
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
sobx...there is no ppl tagging my blog...aww... oh well.. aniwae, today is quite weird.cos i didnt really have much sleep - 2 hrs. can u believe it? omg..i was rushin my gp essay VERY early in the morning... yesterday i was feelin low.. and jus nice my friend steiner, called in the middle of the night say.. "wanna study together now?" i was quite shocked at the "now" word.. lols.. haha..cos it is roughly at 1.30am in the morning. but it wasnt a mugging opportunity for mi..lolz.. it was jus emo-laxing thingy cos i didnt bring any books or pens..lolz.
my first time sneaking out of the house so late..haha! can u imagine i walk on the road all the way to mac...omg.. there was no car lar.. the street was so deserted.. haha. cool..cos everything looks like resident evil..lolz.. u can like do wateva u wan on the street..lolz..jus don let those occasionally speeding cars knock u down.. aniwae.. ya.. chat and chat and chat ..eat and eat and eat.. then we went to the playground..lolz.. and sit on the swing.. like small little kids. actually rite.. i initially tot it will be quite weird.. but i feel that anyone can really tok their hearts out in this kind of situation... very nice way to relaxing in the middle of the night...lolz all the way till almost 4.50am.. lolz..total crazi-ness
slept for 2 hrs. 7.00am..and i rush my gp essay to 8.30am, pack everything and eat a 1 min breakfast and chiong to sch for lesson at 9. ULTRA boring sia.. lesson ended at 4.30om..
a feeling of nostagia is coming back... i hate it man.. cos will be missing someone so badly.. duno y.. oh well..
Posted by wanderluster at 9/05/2006 10:44:00 PM
Friday, September 01, 2006
don ever watch the devil wears prada...omg.. it is a waste of money and time.
the whole movie was like so borrrriiiiiing and......draggy. rating? 2 stars ** / 5 stars*****
today was a damm boring day as usual... i wanted to go out with somebody... but it is like impossible... reason.. duno y. today i saw my friend, ray. he's having a good life sia... he's having good time with his two good female friends. well well well, lolz.. kinda felt bad... its like u see ur friend doing so well...while u are in a sad plight/situation.
i dun wanna feel emo again.. no pt lar.
There's people talking. They talk about me. They know my name, they think they know everything. But they don't know anything about me. - song by hilary duff
it really reflects what i m feeling right now. plus, whenever i wan somebody to know something, it always fails. either that somebody nv care or.... doesnt even know anything abt it at all. recently, i m also quite mad abt somebody.. my friend overheard a conversation and told mi that it was abt mi, ******* said that "aiya..that seng yong always nv do anything or bring anything" is that wad others think abt mi? is that the impression i m always giving to others? BIATCH! wat the hell... i m always doing sth and i got bring my stuff.. to whoever the person is... i noe who u are.. STOP ACTING LIKE YOU KNOW ABT MI! fish! u don even know a single thing! arghh... u noe i was quite irritated by this kind of ppl..totally can tell them to get lost.. i rather be alone then mixing with this bunch of .....
totally gettin tired...gona sleep..ZZZzzzz